The things most worth using now, instead of saving for someday, are the good china, the special-occasion outfit, your best jewelry, perfume and candles, nice sheets and towels, the good wine, your craft and hobby supplies, family heirlooms, old photos and stories, the trip you keep postponing and the kind words you mean to say. After 60, “someday” is today. Using what you love turns an ordinary Tuesday into a small celebration.
Below are 11 things to stop saving, with one small step for each, plus why we hold back, a gentle 7-day challenge and what to do with the things you’ll never use.
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Why We Save Things for Someday
Many of us grew up with parents who lived through hard times and taught us to save the good things for company or a special day. Some saving is wise. Money for the future, for example, is worth protecting. But the lovely things sitting in cabinets and drawers were made to be used. Often we hold back because we’re afraid of breaking or “wasting” them, or because we’re waiting for an occasion that feels important enough. The truth is that the occasion is your life, and it’s happening right now.
11 Things to Stop Saving for Someday
1. The Good China
Your wedding china or your mother’s dishes deserve to be enjoyed, not just dusted once a year. Eating breakfast from a beautiful plate is a small daily pleasure that costs nothing extra.
Try this: use one place setting for Sunday breakfast this week. Hand-wash gold- or silver-rimmed pieces. If your china is very old or hand-painted, a home lead test kit can give you peace of mind before you use it for food every day.
2. The Special-Occasion Outfit
That dress with the tags still on, or the blazer you’re saving for a wedding, may not fit or suit you in five years. Wear it now, when it makes you feel wonderful.
Try this: wear your favorite “too nice” piece to lunch, church or the grocery store this week, and pair it with simpler shoes to make it everyday.
Helpful find: a handheld garment steamer freshens a piece that’s been hanging for years.
3. Your Good Jewelry
Pearls, a gold bracelet or your grandmother’s ring are meant to be worn. Pearls in particular benefit from being worn, because they look their best with gentle use and regular wiping.
Try this: wear one “good” piece with jeans this week. For more ideas, see my how to layer necklaces over 50.
Helpful find: a soft jewelry polishing cloth keeps pearls and gold looking their best.
4. Perfume, Candles and Bath Products
Perfume can change and fade over the years, especially when stored in light or heat, and candles and bath oils don’t get better with age. They’re made for ordinary evenings.
Try this: wear your favorite perfume to run errands, and light the “good” candle at dinner tonight.
Helpful find: a candle snuffer and wick trimmer set helps your good candles burn cleaner and last longer.
5. The Nice Sheets and Towels
Many of us keep the best linens for guests and sleep on the worn ones ourselves. You deserve the soft sheets and fluffy towels more than anyone.
Try this: put the guest-room sheets on your own bed this week, and use the good towels.
Helpful find: lavender sachets keep the linen closet smelling fresh.
6. The Good Wine or Champagne
Most wine isn’t made to age for decades, and many bottles saved “for a special occasion” are past their best by the time they’re opened. Share it while it tastes the way it should.
Try this: invite a friend over this week and open the bottle for no reason at all, or use the crystal glasses for sparkling water.
7. Your Craft and Hobby Supplies
The beautiful yarn, the expensive paints and the fabric you bought for “the perfect project” are waiting for you. Creating with them is the point, not keeping them perfect.
Try this: start one small project with your best supplies this week, even just a single card or a coaster.
Helpful find: a watercolor paint set and a cold-press watercolor paper pad if you’d like to start something new.
8. Heirlooms: Give Them With Warm Hands
Giving a family piece while you’re here means you see the joy it brings and can tell its story yourself. Ask your family what they’d truly love, rather than assuming.
Try this: choose one heirloom, write a short note about who owned it and why it matters, and give it this month.
Helpful find: a keepsake gift box and acid-free tissue paper make the moment feel special.
9. Old Photos and Family Stories
A box of unlabeled photos can become a mystery for the next generation. You’re the one who knows the names, places and stories behind them.
Try this: label 10 photos this week with names, dates and places, and record yourself telling the story behind one of them on your phone.
Helpful find: a photo-safe marking pencil and an archival photo storage box protect your prints for the next generation.
10. The Trip You Keep Postponing
Travel often gets harder, not easier, with each year that passes. If there’s a place you’ve always dreamed of, now is the time to plan it, even if it’s a shorter or simpler version.
Try this: pick a date and take one concrete step this week, such as checking your passport, asking a friend to come or pricing flights. For more inspiration, see the things you’ll regret not doing before you turn 70.
Helpful find: packing cubes and a lightweight carry-on make travel easier on your back.
11. The Kind Words You Mean to Say
The thank-you, the “I’m proud of you” and the “I forgive you” are the most valuable things we save. Say them while the people you love can hear them.
Try this: write one card or make one phone call this week to tell someone what they mean to you.
Helpful find: a box of blank note cards with envelopes to keep by your favorite chair.
The 7-Day Use-It-Now Challenge
| Day | Use it now |
|---|---|
| Day 1 | Eat breakfast on the good china. |
| Day 2 | Wear your best jewelry with an everyday outfit. |
| Day 3 | Wear your favorite perfume and light the good candle. |
| Day 4 | Put the nice sheets on your own bed. |
| Day 5 | Write a card or call someone with kind words. |
| Day 6 | Share the special bottle, or the crystal glasses, with a friend. |
| Day 7 | Take one real step toward the trip you’ve been postponing. |
What to Do With Things You’ll Never Use
- Ask your family first. Give each person a chance to choose what they’d truly love.
- Gift it with its story, to a friend, a neighbor or a young person setting up a home.
- Sell or consign it. Formal china and crystal often sell for less than you’d expect, so decide whether the money or the space matters more.
- Donate it to a charity shop, shelter or church, where it can make someone else’s table special.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it wasteful to use the good china every day?
No. It’s more wasteful to own beautiful things that never bring you joy. A chipped plate is a sign of a life well lived. If you’re worried, use it for one meal a week first.
How do I decide what to keep and what to use?
Ask yourself if you love it, if you’d use it this year and if someone you love would want it. If the answer to all three is no, let it go.
How do I give heirlooms without hurt feelings?
Talk openly with your family, let each person share what matters to them and write your wishes down. Taking turns choosing can feel fairer than deciding for everyone.
Final Thoughts
When you stop saving things for someday, ordinary days start to feel special. Use the good dishes, wear the pearls, plan the trip and say the kind words. Your life is the occasion.
For more on living fully, read the things to stop doing after 60 for peace of mind and the social habits of people who still get invited everywhere. Save this reminder to your Pinterest board, and pick one thing to use today.
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